Love-sick Puppy.

What do you do when another woman is in love/obsessed with your man?

Do you call the little heifer and give her a talking to, or just act cool, calm and collected, like it doesn’t bother you one bit?

Supposedly, the man in this situation is helpless because he is trying not to offend sensibilities, keeping gurlfi happy whilst giving the LSP a gentle let-down.

Ok what happens when LSP just won’t quit? Calling all the damn time, crying n begging your man to consider and put himself in her shoes?

From a woman’s perspective, I can tell you that it is extremely annoying to sit and watch such a scene unfold. Because, being a chick, you know she’s using every trick in the book to get your boyfi to come round, break down his resolve and give-in. and when a woman wants something really bad, we know how to scheme don’t we? They don’t call it feminine wiles for nothing.

This is possible even when boyfi has no feelings whatsoeva for LSP…I’ve heard of house girls overthrowing the madam of the house oh! Maybe through jazz or by using waist power (calabar gal style!) …ok I digress.

For real tho, what do you do when it becomes so persistent that it begins to bother u a little too much?

You can tell boyfi not to pick her calls anymore, to loose her number, or you can simply trust who you are with not to stoop so low. Someone once said about trust that “don’t set your husband up on a pedestal and then cry when you find that he is only an ordinary man, after all”. So I’m saying it really is about getting the balance right, I think, because dictating to him may just annoy him and build the feeling of resentment…no one wants to live with boss-lady who tells you what to say and wear, but at the same time, you need to be able to show boyfi the threat that LSP represents. He’s not stupid, and you really don’t have to go on about it before he figures…again to the last comment, this wise person said “ don’t nag your husband; if he won’t carry out your wishes for love of you, he certainly won’t because you nag him”.

Again, acting like it doesn’t bother you when it does, is certainly not the answer. You should be able to tell boyfi exactly how u feel at any point in time, and if he is a good one, he should calm your irrational fears and make you feel more secure. Flirting with other guys just to "show" boyfi again is not the answer. It really will just exacerbate the problem .
But the issue is not with the particular babe, it is what they represent isn’t it? Any attractive person will tell you that a ring never stopped anyone from hitting on them or declaring their undying love. It boils down to boyfi having an effective “defence mechanism”, to be able to get rid of unwanted attention, to be able to make sure outside distractions don’t affect what he has with wifey. Because if it isn’t Bisi today, it will be Aisha tomorrow. I don’t think attacking the individual is the way round it, (so pulling all the tracks outta LSP’s hair and scratching her eyes out, no matter how GOOD it’ll feel…lmao!) does nothing for your rep….there’s a reason that u r wifey, isn’t there? You are the CLASSY one. Trust boyfi enough to handle it.

Don’t take my word for it tho, tell me, what would you do?