From a guy’s perspective, I have always wondered what happens when one of your guy-friends is all loved-up…
What happens when the guys go out partying, drinking or just out to have a little bit of fun?
I’ve heard/ read that there’s always the notorious guy-friend who makes the “faithful/ loved-up one” try to POP or just behave badly.
I also heard that guys have a sort of “pack mentality” (like dogs/ wolves etc)… meaning that if one of the pack members is behaving so out-of-character (in our context, in love), there is a tendency to want to make him conform or just shake the silly-ness of the emotion out of him!
All this may be true…it certainly applies to girls as well.
Various reasons may make a “concerned friend” want to react. You may have been hurt by an ex-lover and don’t want to see brother-man go down the same route. You may be thinking now is the time for this son-of-a-gun to be having the time of his life, not getting his love on lock-down! You could be missing his company because sister-girl has come into his life, taking up all of his damn time! No time to play pro-evo/ mack on random chicks et al…lol I’m thinking this is the main reason…you miss him!(oh pls admit it, ain’t nothing gay about that shit- its called bromance, I hear).
Definitely, you still want to have fun…relationships don’t have to spell the end of your social life. I certainly would hate for that to happen.
From person-in-a-relationship’s point of view, I think it still boils down to who you are as an individual. You are grown, you know right from wrong, wifey/ boyfi does not have to stalk or blow your phone up before you know how to behave…
Hopefully, you are crazy about who you are with to not want to intentionally hurt them. You know you got a good thing…
If you think about the person and smile, then for the love of God, do everything in your power to keep yourself (and better-half too!) smiling.
Or better still, in the words of my fellow blogger, “Don’t fuck up: don’t disrespect the missus”! http://www.singleblackmale.net/
Lol …enough said eh?
PS: if you do everything in your power to respect and keep better-half secure, and they still act all paranoid, insisting on being everywhere with you, by all means, suggest therapy…I smell bigger trust issues.
What happens when the guys go out partying, drinking or just out to have a little bit of fun?
I’ve heard/ read that there’s always the notorious guy-friend who makes the “faithful/ loved-up one” try to POP or just behave badly.
I also heard that guys have a sort of “pack mentality” (like dogs/ wolves etc)… meaning that if one of the pack members is behaving so out-of-character (in our context, in love), there is a tendency to want to make him conform or just shake the silly-ness of the emotion out of him!
All this may be true…it certainly applies to girls as well.
Various reasons may make a “concerned friend” want to react. You may have been hurt by an ex-lover and don’t want to see brother-man go down the same route. You may be thinking now is the time for this son-of-a-gun to be having the time of his life, not getting his love on lock-down! You could be missing his company because sister-girl has come into his life, taking up all of his damn time! No time to play pro-evo/ mack on random chicks et al…lol I’m thinking this is the main reason…you miss him!(oh pls admit it, ain’t nothing gay about that shit- its called bromance, I hear).
Definitely, you still want to have fun…relationships don’t have to spell the end of your social life. I certainly would hate for that to happen.
From person-in-a-relationship’s point of view, I think it still boils down to who you are as an individual. You are grown, you know right from wrong, wifey/ boyfi does not have to stalk or blow your phone up before you know how to behave…
Hopefully, you are crazy about who you are with to not want to intentionally hurt them. You know you got a good thing…
If you think about the person and smile, then for the love of God, do everything in your power to keep yourself (and better-half too!) smiling.
Or better still, in the words of my fellow blogger, “Don’t fuck up: don’t disrespect the missus”! http://www.singleblackmale.net/
Lol …enough said eh?
PS: if you do everything in your power to respect and keep better-half secure, and they still act all paranoid, insisting on being everywhere with you, by all means, suggest therapy…I smell bigger trust issues.
Yeah ... there is a slight pack mentality ... but at the end of the day a weak individual is still a weak individual.
ReplyDeleteAnd sometime's the pack is good. I got one friend who has nothing but married and engaged friends and walks around all day dreaming of his future wifey.
Don't be afraid of the pack!
lol 4 real? das gud to know...
ReplyDeletethanx for stopping by!
lol@sister-girl has come into his life, taking up all of his damn time!
ReplyDeleteI agree that guys have serious pack-mentality. They love their boys, hommies, etc and never want to be seen as weak in front of them. I know I am a woman and probably paranoid but I won't lie that the pack scares me 'cos truly there is always that danger of what the boys r up to.
lol ur rite...der's always dat fear..but @ d end of d day, it depends on how mature the person ur dealing with is..
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